Biggest clue of all: The salad course is punctuated by strained silence and forced small talk. Before we get to those, let’s review a few general guidelines for dating discourse: Listen as much or more than you talk.
The two pick at their dinner salads, staring down at the leafy mound before them. Finally, one of them tries to grease the wheels of conversation. Some people consider themselves skilled communicators because they can talk endlessly.
The best approach to get a woman rolling on the floor laughing, without sacrificing your dignity, is to hand the baton to her.
Ask her a question that will have her reliving humorous experiences or putting herself in humorously hypothetical situations, and let her discover the laughter herself.
You could go for the tried and tested joke but this approach, unfortunately, tends to be more of a male thing.
A lot of women don’t really go for the full-on comic approach. You know the kind of thing: how do you like your eggs in the morning? If I said you had a beautiful body, would you hold it against me?
You're giving her the opportunity to remember who she was before she got here—and what she liked best about that time in her life—and to share that story with you.Rather than treating questions as a first date script, weave them seamlessly into conversation, by asking, listening, and following up with new topics and further questions.Before you know it, you’ll be using questions to inspire a natural exchange.In reality, premature or exaggerated revelations are due more to boundary issues, unresolved pain, or self-centeredness than true intimacy. Maybe your first date questions will lead you to discover that this person is your soul mate—or maybe not. Questions about favorite books and movies you’ve already searched several times and you are afraid that could originate hush.