Boyfriend and I were dating before he went to med school, and now that he’s in his 3rd year and I’m in my 1st, I feel like I might as well throw out a few additions to that article: 1. If the girlfriend gets off work at 4pm, decides to surprise her boyfriend by making dinner, and expects him to be back at like he said, she’s going to be pissed when he’s 3 hours late – no matter how much extra study time he needed.* Once may be okay, but this will happen all the time, and it will get old fast. Med school schedules are anything but consistent – you can’t predict how much you need to study on any given day, and interest group/shadowing/research schedules change constantly. I know it’s obvious, but it makes the list by being, sadly, the reason for most of the breakups. Make sure you make it up to them when the test is over by spending the post-test night with them instead of just with your classmates.** 6.Better for both of you to be busy than for one of you to be sitting at home, waiting. Stress kills relationships, and stress is when you’ve promised your boyfriend to go to an art gallery at 2pm, but your PI e-mails you asking if you can come in an hour earlier, or you get an e-mail announcing that the anatomy professor will drop by the lab around 3 to review a confusing topic. My plans with Boyfriend were usually along the lines of, “Art gallery, this weekend.” “Date night, this Friday – at some point after 6pm.” Yes, it means that we’re effectively sacrificing other people or activities at times (by keeping an entire night open for what might only be a 2 hour “date”), but you can’t have it all. This is okay with us, because of #1 – we’re both busy. The fact is, “My girlfriend is always studying and I’m lonely” is not a good reason to cheat. Finally, med school is Some of us act like this without even thinking about it, but it’s not okay.
So if you are looking to meet and date a student in scrubs, here are a few tips to help you along.
We’ll sometimes smell like a dissecting room Part of our course involves looking inside a cadaver, and the smell is harder to get rid of than TB.
The smell of formaldehyde is the least sexy scent since the lynx -doused days of year 9, so get ready to lose all attraction to us every couple of weeks.
My time is valuable but thinking that my time is more valuable than my partner’s is a potential fuel for a fights.
Mistake #2 – Allowing miscommunication (especially via text) to cause fights As a medical student, it’s not practical to see my partner or go on dates multiple times a week.