We built Seeking Arrangement using the latest techniques and technologies. Unfortunately, your browser doesn't support those technologies.feature called “Tinder and the Dawn of the ‘Dating Apocalypse’” spent 6,500 words this week exploring Millennial dating culture only to ultimately conclude, once again, that smartphones ruin lives, young people are doomed by their access to instant gratification, and that Millennials are fated to being unceremoniously ghosted until they actually die and become ghosts themselves.“‘ of a metaphor.) I would forgive the author for the inclusion of this now boring cliché about application-based dating as a commodification of romantic prospects, but the piece also includes an inaccurate definition of “fuckboy.” So sometimes a woman has to stand up and say, “Enough is enough.”The reality of relationship formation among Millennials is linked to technology that enables more choice, of course.Tinder’s Twitter account erupted in the wake of the article, suggesting that the abundance of choice was one of Tinder’s many benefits.Whether it’s where I’m eating, where I’m traveling or, God forbid, something I’m buying, like a lot of people in my generation—those in their 20s and 30s—I feel compelled to do a ton of research to make sure I’m getting every option and then making the best choice.If this mentality pervades our decisionmaking in so many realms, is it also affecting how we choose a romantic partner? I asked my dad about this experience, and here’s how he described it: he told his parents he was ready to get married, so his family arranged meetings with three neighboring families. That’s how my dad decided on the person with whom he was going to spend the rest of his life. I am perpetually indecisive about even the most mundane things, and I couldn’t imagine navigating such a huge life decision so quickly. Happily so—and probably more so than most people I know who had nonarranged marriages.
So we are seeing the rise of demographically focused, highly specialized dating sites.
Ok Cupid’s advanced search function (available for as little as .95 a month) allows users to filter matches by attractiveness, body type, and specific answers to questions that imply a political persuasion or religion.
There is The League, an app that caters to Ivy League grads, and Farmers Only, an app for people involved in agriculture.
Everyone is drinking, peering into their screens and swiping on the faces of strangers they may have sex with later that evening. “Ew, this guy has Dad bod,” a young woman says of a potential match, swiping left.
Her friends smirk, not looking up.“Tinder sucks,” they say. At a booth in the back, three handsome twentysomething guys in button-downs are having beers.