The woman has a white son from a previous relationship and is currently married to a Black man, with whom she has a two-year-old son. I wonder who holds up the mirrors for the couple from the blog post, if they even have mirrors at all.***As hard as everything is right now, this social environment is an improvement.
In this essay, she reflects on her relationship as she has had to admit to herself the racism her husband experiences, and realize the future her toddler son faces. You are to be a member of society that contributes to the world. No longer are Black people silenced as easily as they were during my childhood. Injustice is called out, spread, the veil of American freedom lifted, our bullshit now visible to the rest of the world.
Interracial relationships aren't a panacea to end racism, of course; nor can any type of relationship be over-generalized as better than another.
But interracial relationships can actively help make America a more diverse, accepting place. Too often, on-screen interracial relationships are limited to the pairing of a white person, usually a male, with a woman of color, ignoring the fact that other constructions do exist.
Read on for some common things people hear when they're in an interracial relationship (that they really could do without):1. Reaction Gifs"'Have you always had a thing for Asian (or black, etc.) men?
They have been together for years and now she is beginning to understand the inherent danger this country presents for people with brown skin. No walking down the street swinging a sword around. You are to be proud of who you are and your heritage. It is both glorious and heartbreaking to see the volume of injustices across the country. Black people have been discussing this for decades.
Now she sees that minor things like spending time alone with their white child or driving with a broken tail light are potentially lethal for her Black spouse. To tell her two-year-old Black child this: “You better make smart decisions. If you are anything less than these things, you might not come home to me one day.”There was so much in that one quote that I wished I still smoked. For a long time, I gave white people the benefit of the doubt. It was in the past six months that I finally accepted that all of this is 100% deliberate, including the “ignorance.” It is willful. My denial of this was the only thing that made me feel slightly safe in this world.
But the representations we do have can help move the ball forward.
Just as negative racial portrayals to negative stereotypes, more positive visibility for cross-race couples in media makes a difference.